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Resources

Books, tools & resources I genuinely recommend

Over the years, I’ve collected a lot of resources.

Some are books I’ve recommended to clients again and again. Some have shaped the way I think and work as a therapist. Others are resources I’ve mentioned on the podcast, shared with colleagues, used in my own learning, or simply found helpful enough that I think they’re worth passing along.

 

So I created a home for them here.

This is a curated collection of books, tools, and resources for understanding yourself a little better, strengthening your relationships, navigating difficult seasons, and continuing the work that often happens outside of the therapy room.

I’ll continue adding to this page as I discover things I think are genuinely worth sharing.

I hope you find something here that meets you exactly where you are.

Relationships & Attachment

Books and resources for understanding attachment, communication, emotional connection, conflict, intimacy, and the patterns we bring into our relationships.

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Fight Smarter, Love Stronger

By Clarinda Brandão

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Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

By Esther Perel

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The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity

By Esther Perel

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After the Affair

By Janis A. Spring

 

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Attached

By Amir Levine & Rachel Heller

 

Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together

Getting the Sex You Want

By Tammy Nelson

Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your

Come As You Are

By Emily Nagoski

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Hold Me Tight

By Dr. Sue Johnson

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Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy

By Jessica Fern

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Women Who Love Too Much 

By Robin Norwood

The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and O

The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love 

By Janet W. Hardy, Dossie Easton

Mental Health & Healing

Resources related to anxiety, trauma, emotional regulation, family dynamics, boundaries, self-understanding, and healing.

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Breaking Free from Emotional Eating

By Geneen Roth 

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Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

By Lindsay C. Gibson

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The Body Keeps the Score 

By Bessel van der Kolk

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Children of the Self-Absorbed
By Nina W. Brown

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Will I Ever Be Good Enough?
By Karyl McBride

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Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma By Peter A. Levine​

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Healing the Shame That Binds You By John Bradshaw​

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The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook By Edmund J. Bourne​

 

Parenting

Books and tools for navigating parenthood, understanding your child, breaking generational patterns, and building more connected relationships within your family.

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The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind

Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson

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Reconnecting After Baby: A Guide for New Parents

By Clarinda Brandão

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Healing Together: A Guide for Navigating Birth Trauma as a Couple

By Clarinda Brandão

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Raising Good Humans

By Hunter Clarke-Fields

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The Motherhood Shift: A Gentle Guide to the Emotional Reality of Life After Baby

By Clarinda Brandão

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Parenting from the Inside Out

By Daniel J. Siegel & Mary Hartzell

 

 

 

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The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did)

By Philippa Perry

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The Fatherhood Shift: Understanding the Emotional Transition Into Fatherhood

By Clarinda Brandão

Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn, Consent, and Navigating the New Masculinity.

Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn, Consent, and Navigating the New Masculinity

By Peggy Orenstein

Personal Growth & Self-Work

Resources for getting curious about yourself - your patterns, emotions, relationships, history, needs, and the person you’re becoming.

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It Didn't Start with You

By Mark Wolynn

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No Bad Parts

By Richard C. Schwartz PhD

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The Gifts of Imperfection

By Brené Brown

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Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha

 By Tara Brach

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Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics: A 10% Happier How-to Book 

By Dan Harris, Jeffrey Warren, Carlye Adler

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The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself 

By Michael A. Singer​​

Children & Families
Books and resources for children, teens, and the grown-ups who support them. These are resources I’ve come across through my work, recommended to families, or simply think do a beautiful job of helping young people understand emotions, relationships, change, and some of the harder parts of growing up.

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The Colour of Feelings: A Story About Empathy, Big Emotions, and Quiet Strength

By Clarinda Brandão

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The Color Monster: A Story About Emotions

By Anna Llenas

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The Invisible String

By Patrice Karst 

 

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Two Homes

By Claire Masurel

Therapist Resources

Books and resources I’ve found useful in my own work as a therapist, as well as materials I recommend to clinicians, students, and other mental health professionals.

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From Impasse to Intimacy: Understanding Unconscious Needs Can Transform Relationships

By David Shaddock

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Attachment Theory Expanded: Security Dynamics in Individuals, Dyads, Groups, and Societies

Mario Mikulincer & Phillip R Shaver 

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Trauma and Recovery

By Judith L. Herman 

 

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Attachment in Psychotherapy

By David J. Wallin

 

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The Gift of Therapy

By Irvin D. Yalom

 

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Internal Family Systems Therapy

By Richard C. Schwartz & Martha Sweezy

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The Narcissistic Family

By Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman & Robert M. Pressman

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Principles and Practice of Sex Therapy, Sixth Edition 

By Kathryn S K Hall & Yitzchak M Binik

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The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: Creating Connection

By Susan M. Johnson

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Between Therapist and Client

By Michael Kahn 

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Love’s Executioner

By Irvin D. Yalom 

 

Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame: A Relational/Neurobiological Approach By Patrici

Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame: A Relational/Neurobiological Approach 

By Patricia A. DeYoung

A Note About These Recommendations

The resources on this page are personally selected by me. Being included here doesn’t mean that I agree with every idea in every book or resource, nor is anything on this page intended to replace therapy, medical care, or individualized professional support.

 

Think of this as my bookshelf: things I’ve read, recommended, learned from, referred back to, or thought were worth sharing.

 

Affiliate Disclosure

Some of the links on this page are affiliate links. This means that if you choose to purchase something through one of these links, I may receive a small commission at no additional cost to you.

As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.

 

Affiliate relationships do not determine what I recommend. If something is here, it’s because I genuinely believe it’s worth sharing.

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